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يناير 5, 20176
يناير 5, 2017عندما ينال هذا الطفل ما يبتغي يصبح بحق ابن الشمس والمرح والسرور . وعندما تسد في وجهه السبل ينزوي بصمت وغضب أو يحتج بالزئير العالي . ليس من الصعب التكهن برغباته لأن كل ما فيه يشير إلى سعيه لهدف واحد هو تبوأ مكان الصدارة وشغل دور الزعيم المطلق . هل هذا دليل على الغرور والعظمة؟ نعم , بكل تأكيد ! لكنها طبيعة متأصلة فيه وخارجة عن إرادته . ولهذا السبب لا يستحق من ذويه القسوة أو السخرية . إن أكثر ما يؤذي هذا الطفل سوء المعاملة وخصوصا أمام الغرباء . يصاب عندئذ بجرح بليغ لا يلتئم بسهولة . حبذا لو يمتنع أهله عن ردعه وتوبيخه ويستعيضوا منهما بالتوجيه القائم على المحبة والتفهم .
يخلق مع هذا الطفل دافع طبيعي يدفعه نحو القمة ويرافقه لحسن الحظ شعوره بالحق والعدالة وعدم اللؤم أو الخبث . فمن كان على هذه الشاكلة يستحق أن تنمى فيه روح الزعامة شرط ألا ينساق مع الأنانية وحب الذات , وأن يمنح الآخرين فرصة الوصول أيضا .
على كل حال وسواء أنميت تلك الظاهرة أم لم تنم يشغل هذا الطفل دور الملك منذ ولادته . تراه يتحكم في والديه وأشقائه وشقيقاته والأقارب والأصدقاء كما لو كان فعلا صاحب عرش وصولجان . فهو تارة يمتهن التمثيل بقصد لفت الانتباه , وطورا يكسل ويترفع تاركا لسواه مجال خدمته ورعايته . وهنا يصبح التدخل واجبا قبل أن تتأصل فيه تلك العادة فينقلب فيما بعد إلى إنسان جبار متسلط . يجب أن يعود منذ تلك المرحلة احترام شعور الآخرين وحقوقهم وذلك من خلال منهج تربوي صارم وقائم على المحبة في آن واحد .
هنا نوعان من الطفولة عند هذا الطفل: النوع الأول مرح منفتح كريم , والنوع الثاني هادئ خجول لا بطبعه بل نتيجة حتمية لسوء تصرف الأهل وعدم تفهمهم . و هذا النوع الأخير يحتاج إلى رعاية خاصة تحول دون انقلاب الطفل إلى إنسان بالغ. مكبوت الشعور. سلبي التفكير .
يحب هذا الطفل الألعاب التي يعتمد فيها على عنصر الحظ كما يحب لعبة العساكر المعروفة ويحتفظ منها بمجموعات مختلفة من الجنود . أما الفتاة فتهوى الملابس الجميلة , وتتصرف بلياقة وتهذيب , وتنشد المسؤولية وتأبى القيام بالأعمال المنزلية الوضيعة كتنظيف الحمام مثلا .
يبدو هذا الطفل في المدرسة أكثر جرأة وحيوية واندفاعا من سواه . وهو كريم , يمد رفاقه بالمال وينفق على نفسه الكثير . ذكي دون ريب ولكنه معرض للكسل والإهمال بين الفترة والأخرى . إذا تسلح أستاذه بالصبر جعل منه تلميذا من أنجح التلامذة . هو على كل حال محبوب من معلميه بسبب طيبة قلبه ودفئ ابتسامته . ثم إنه يمارس من حين إلى آخر دور المعلم , فيشرح لزملائه الدروس ويفرض عليهم النظام . يضاف إلى هذا أنه يحب الحفلات والاختلاط وإطاعة الأوامر المشوبة بالرفق واللين , لكنه يرفض الرضوخ للشدة ويقابلها بالتمرد في بعض الأحيان .
أخيرا يتظاهر هذا الطفل بالشجاعة لكنه يخشى أمورا كثيرة يرفض التصريح بها . والحقيقة أنه أحوج الأطفال إلى حنان الأم , و خصوصا في المساء عندما يحين موعد نومه .
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